Spoilers ahead and trigger warning for CSA (childhood sexual assault)
It was at her retelling of her experience of CSA that I felt my own body shut down, in realizing - she really is just like me. I had to take a pause for a few days. Her mother's response reminds me to that of my own mom's. I was overcome with familiar feelings of devastation of having a safe person fail you as someone that was supposed to protect you, and care for you as a child. Later again, when she's forced to wed her first cousin, her mother gaslights her into believing her compliance and silence were consent. With my own CSA experience, my mom went the log kya kehenge route, and I wasn't allowed to tell anyone or call the police on my predator first cousin, twice my age. When the repression bubbled it back up and my mom and I would fight, like Habib's mom, mine would accuse me of having failed in defending myself, and making my 'vexation' known.